I Don't Want To Be Like Everybody Else

"The first and great commandment is this: Don't let them scare you."

-Elmer Davis

Of all the so called Disney princesses, I relate the most with Belle. Not because I want to be like her but because I understand her desire to better her life, not satisfied with doing with is expected of her. That's why in the opening scene when she sang "I want more than this provincial life", it resonates with me. (Merida from Brave is another strong, STRONG woman who did not end up with a prince/love interest for a happy ending but that's for another post.)

Don't get me wrong. I'm happy for my friends who are happily married and settled down with kids and everything. It's a wonderful, beautiful thing to find someone you like and who likes you back- enough to spend the rest of their life with you. To bring new life into the world, nurturing young minds and being a guardian to the next generation. What could be more rewarding I ask you...and yet, it's not something I can imagine myself doing.

But who knows right? Maybe if I find someone I'm so in love with, I can see myself having his child. Or maybe he turns out to be a psychopath who loves torturing little boys and I help find victims for him because I'm so in love with him ala a typical Criminal Minds episode.

What? It could happen. I can't really say what I will or won't do in the future.   

My mum worries that I will be lonely in my later years. It's always nice to have a companion in your old age. But the truth is, I'm ok on my own. Besides, I'm not really alone. I got my friends. Not accquaintances. Real friends. People who make time for you even if they are attached/married. 

I just want to say that I totally understand that when you are married and have a family, things change. But if you use that as an excuse to treat your friends like shit you can suck it. 

What was I saying? Oh yeah. So I try to reassure my mum (constantly) that I don't need to get married to be fulfilled. I am way to busy/happy to see any kind of void just because I'm single. If I find someone, great! If I don't, that's life.


It's not like I want a life as a superstar. I'm quite a recluse. Well, as reclusive as a person who writes her thoughts on a blog can be. ^^ I'm ok with a normal life, but I don't want a normal life...to follow this status quo that everyone is clamoring to follow. I don't need to be married by 28, have kids by 35 and be a manager by 40. I don't aim to live in a mansion by the time I retire or earn a 6 figure salary (BUT if anyone wants to pay me that sum, I will not decline.)


If I have to sum it all up, what I really want to do with my life is to see the world and touch lives, making it for the better or at the very least, make them rethink their current status and re-evaluate how they perceive the world to be. If I can do that and in the process follow the journey that God has planned for me, I'll be a happy duck.